There comes a time in our lives when we become our own worst enemy. We overthink things, we shut down something that would be good for us, we don't branch out or allow ourselves to have different experiences. We don't allow ourselves to be imperfect, not realizing that everyone everywhere is imperfect in some way. Very few people look at themselves in the mirror and see perfection. To be grounded and see imperfections but still see yourself as a whole human being is the goal. To stop beating ourselves up over things we can't change and things we can but aren't allowing ourselves to. To just be. And be happy with who we are. No matter what imperfection you struggle through you aren't alone. There are people struggling through the same exact thing as you. But what we all need to realize is we make it a struggle. We make it difficult for ourselves. If we just accepted our difference from the social view of perfection we wouldn’t have a struggle at all. It is the pressure we put on ourselves mainly with that nagging voice in our heads telling us with the assortment of things from not being good enough or smart enough or pretty enough or thin enough etc. and we all know he/she rarely gets tired! So in short, we need to learn to allow ourselves to be the imperfectly whole being we are and put some tape over the mouth of the voice in our heads. How will we ever see just how perfect imperfect can be?
Curled up in a cold bed, warm twinkling lights emanate on the bedside. She pulls his shirt closer as if it could attempt to embody all he is. An impossible task. The smell of her home wrapped up in the outline she clutches, where his shoulders would fit snugly to then fall, loosely touching his torso. Beginning the difficult task of sleep, she doesn't want to dream. For they don't do any amount of justice to reality. Her mind takes her to when she can go home again. The door sweeps inward to unveil beautiful blue; her favorite smile and the arms she wishes were wrapped around her now. There they would stand, cuddled in warmth and safety, she finally made it. Back to where she belongs and a smile seeps from her lips.
Beauty is not your purpose, instead be brutally honest, intimidatingly smart, kind, caring, compassionate, hilarious, make noise and don't fret over boys eat healthy exercise and don't apologize when tears shed from your eyes, own your body don't disregard it, say everything you are thankful for daily and act like you've got it, even when you don't, be open to new ideas nothing ever started with "won't" play with puppies and kittens and when it is cold out don’t forget your mittens who cares if they are cutsie you'll be thankful you had them later, drink tea and always wash your makeup off at night love your siblings and try not to fight, take care of yourself and learn it is okay to ask for help, travel as often as possible and soak up the sun, dance in the rain and let go of built up pain, stop being hard on yourself, you do matter, don’t pinch your stomach and wish it was flatter, enjoy the life you live with love and laughter and in the midst of being you, you will see, you define beauty, it does not define you.
Take pride in how far you have come and have faith in how far you can go