so taken by
and filled with it
you surely have walls
Walls built so high
no one can climb them
and even if they could,
will they survive the descent?
It surrounds your every being
even your job
who knew that not getting it from certain people
would leave you frightened as hell
that someday from someone
you will hear a simple
I love you
How old is too old? When you are dating when should you draw the age limit? We all have heard stories about some couple that had a twenty or thirty year age difference (gross). But that is not what I am talking about, I am talking about a ten, maybe even fifteen, year age difference. Now some may be thinking about this being normal, but to me it is weird to think that when you were born they were going throw puberty. When you were learning how to speak they were learning to drive. When you were in elementary school they were partying in some college frat house. So this leads me to ask the question again, how old is too old? I mean how much can you have in common if there is at least a decade between you? He may have loved some band growing up that you had no clue existed. Some say you just know, but what if you don't? Some like an older partner, others want a younger one. Either way, is there a specific age difference that we need to draw the line at?
In many love guide type of books out today they explain how love isn't a game but rather a strategic formation of words and body language. Giving a multitude of step by step pages filled with what you should and shouldn't do. Call me old fashion but what the hell happened to just being yourself? I get that these books are trying to help us (usually its always women). Maybe learn a couple new pick up lines or how to walk into a room with confidence, but why has dating become so structured? If you accidentally screw up the order of the step by step actions you are supposed to take what the hell do you do? Or even worse, what if you are getting to the point where you are about to "hook" the guy and then you just forget the rest of the steps all together? What are you supposed to do? Sit there like a little robot exposed and confused? And to go back to the comment I made earlier about books and how they are "usually always for women", why is that? Why do we have to put more pressure on women than there already is? This double sided context of "be yourself" but "not that part of yourself". Women already have so much that bombards us on a daily basis, what our bodies, hair, face, makeup, nails, etc. should look like, and how we are supposed to be classy, flirty, confident,healthy, energetic, adventurous, strong, independent, but also a bit feeble minded so guys won't be intimidated. Then add on top of that all the work that needs to be done at our jobs and at home. Throw in a couple of unexpected daily/weekly occurrences or accidents. And now on top of ALL of that I have to try and think about my step by step process of getting a guy because god forbid I act "normal" and don't stand the most alluring way or bite my lip when I am supposed to. How the hell are women supposed to be any of those things, especially confident, if all we hear and read about are how we are our faults? Now to go back to the "love guide" books, say we are able to remember the fifty million steps we are supposed to take in order to "be us" (but not really us), what happens when you "hook" the guy? Then a year or so later you have obviously stopped the whole charade of being the celebrity version of yourself, and have gone back to being you. Now he leaves you because you aren't all the things he fell in love with, which wasn't you in the first place, and you are back at square one. So you go out again and put on your persona in hopes someone will peel back that charade to see the real you on the inside. When will we realize that if we go out being nothing more than the amazing person we already are, is when we will find someone that loves us for who we truly are, because now it's all out for everyone to see. Own your beauty and intelligence, accept everything about you, and know your worth, now look around and see the people that are staring, they are finally seeing you, and only you!
With Valentines Day approaching normally women all over the world get excited, but 2015 is a whole different ballgame. As many of you probably know Fifty Shades of Grey the movie is coming out, on Valentines day. A.K.A women are going a tinsy bit cuckoo. But what is all the craze about? I get it, it is a very intriguing movie, to say the least, but what is the magnetic draw to watching this film? Is it the attraction of having a man that is so taken by you, and that aspect of wanting to feel wanted? Or is it more of the sexual route? The excitement of doing something you have never done before in the bedroom? Whatever it is women everywhere are over the moon excited to see it. Secretly, I think guys are intrigued and would like to see it as well, but they will never admit it! I think we will finally have a Valentines Day will be an amazing day for all single ladies. So grab your girlfriends and head over to the movies! It will definitely be a lot better than sitting in bed stuffing your face with double chocolate chip ice cream while simultaneously crying your eyes out to P.S I Love You.
Ok, so you know when you find a guy you seem to really like and you start dating only to figure out he acts like a jerk? Well then you obviously dump him, but where does he go from there? Does he continue to be an everlasting asshole that just screws up relationships? Or was he maybe not your cup of tea but he is someone else's? Will he ever become married, have a wife that loves him for everything he is and they grow old together? Will he have kids and become an amazing father? Or be a surgeon and save peoples lives around the world? What and where do the guys go that we dump? I guess the same can be asked about us women as well. I understand people change and grow up, but what if he didn't. What if he stayed exactly the way he was when you dated him, will he find someone who loves everything about him? Or is there some weird holding place? As my sister used to try and sing, in the lyrics of Paula Cole "where have all the cowboys gone", or in this case "where have all the assholes gone"?
So in seeing this movie I was left a bit creeped out and a bit intrigued. Eyes can be the most beautiful part of someone, or the reason they scare you. If you haven't seen this movie it basically explores the idea that someone's eyes can be reincarnated along with parts of the persons soul. What if this is true? What if after you died the look of your eyes and parts of your soul were reincarnated into a new being? Some don't believe in reincarnation, but why not? Why not have an open mindset to life after your life? That your soul still lives on after you don't. Some ask "how do we know it exists"? My question is how do we know is doesn't? There obviously is some sixth sense that certain people are blessed with, so why couldn't an afterlife be something believable? If there is truth to this movie, then I think the world just got a bit more interesting. This concept could align with that feeling that you know someone, but with the reality that you have never met them before. Maybe when this happens fate and reincarnation bring you back together because the connection you had with that person still was so great or still needed more time to evolve from a past life.
Today many are vying for attention and will do anything to get it. A lot of the time though, it seems to include bragging of some sort. Rubbing in your face what you don't have and what they do. My question is why? Why is there such a need for all of this, this attention sucking, wa wa ha ha, I have a better life then you mentality? What happened to modesty? Taking in and appreciating the kind words and actions you receive or give. Just appreciate it and love it, but you don't have to rub it in everyone's face. On the terms of you giving kind words or actions, when,or if, someone finds out they will have so much more respect for you in knowing you kept it to yourself. In no way am I saying you should never celebrate a victory. Go ahead have the time of your life. But when you either give or receive kindness/attention in some way, you don't need to show everyone. Just take it all in, smile and be grateful it happened.
Take pride in how far you have come and have faith in how far you can go