Do you have to be with someone to be in a romantic relationship? According to Taylor Swift you don't have to be. So in that case what defines a romantic relationship? If it's not the ways in which you connect with someone intellectually and intimately, then what is it? Can we be our own romantic partner? Not in a weird way, but to not have anyone else but yourself. To compliment and love every part of you endlessly. To take yourself out on dates to relish in your own thoughts and just enjoy the company of you. Now I am not talking about never dating or marrying someone and just being by yourself for the rest of your life. But in between all of the frogs you kiss, is it possible to be in a relationship with you? I know we should always love ourselves, especially for women, it is now more than ever that we are told to love ourselves for who we are. So, couldn't be that be the same thing then? When you are romantically involved with someone it's about embracing and loving every piece of them flaws and all. So now to flip everything around, if in embracing all our flaws and being in a "romantic relationship" with ourselves, are we our own eternal soul-mates?
Do the lessons we learn create our fate? Instead of fate being the "course" and the lessons or hardships hopefully fit into that course; what if the its our tribulations that design our fate? Maybe this all just a chicken vs. egg situation.I am not sure if I am the only one that thinks this, but I have always thought about "fate" as something that just falls upon us when we are finally in line with whatever our fate is. Either way, I prefer to think the lessons I learn are perfectly in line with where I need to be in my life, rather than trying to construct my life to fit my fate. " I am in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing"- Louise L. Hay
Some say when a situation is going really well they start to think of the worst. Then when the worst occurs, because they continued to focus on it, they're completely surprised. Like it came out of left field. This interaction then reiterates the whole " too good to be true" idea they had in the first place and they start to think badly about those type of situations more often. If you are going to focus on the worst, why are you so surprised when it happens?
When you start dating someone is there such thing as falling too fast? Some say "when I fall in love I fall hard" or "love deeply". Is that all just code for falling really quickly for someone? There are a million articles out there about getting over someone, but there are few, to none, explaining how to do it when you barely know them. Now I am not talking about creepy psychopath, stalker stuff. I am simply taking about that feeling you get from someone. Just the alluring nature of them being them. Maybe its the look in their eyes or smirk that seems to sneak in, in the most sexiest of ways. Or the way their brain works, how they never cease to amaze you with every word they speak. Whatever it is, is there such thing as falling too fast for someone? The craving of wanting to know everything there is to know about them. For those that believe this pertains to them, could it just be that ever present idea of a fairytale and you want your love life to play out like your favorite love movie? Or is it just the wanting need to be desired by someone you desire? In saying all of this, what if it isn't reciprocated? What if they don't feel the same, or you scared them off with your eagerness? What do you do? Some say the act of falling too quickly is most difficult to overcome, since you never really got the response back you wanted. Instead you are left with just your lusting idea of this person. When you fall too fast is it an act of brainlessness or strength of heart?
Is it stupid to make a mends with someone who betrayed you years ago? Or are you just stronger than you once were and can now let it go? This internal fight between your heart and your ego. You want to be tough, with a screw you attitude, to be able to act as though it didn't get to you. When in reality the thought of being able to hug them and smell their scent again makes you happy inside. Not that you aren't over them, because you are, you no longer long to be with them. You just feel that way for the pure comfort of things, for they were a comfort for years on end. So, in wanting to be civil and making a mends are you surrendering to them? Or are you just permanently ending the story you have told for years to be at peace. Finally realizing that you don't have to be screwed over by others in order to have a story worth telling.
Some say, especially when they have kids, that they want to protect them from all harm and heartbreak. Now, I know this is a very sweet thought and it is come at from a very caring place, but what good would you be doing for your child? I'm sorry to say it but life is about learning from experiences that may or may not hurt you. A lot of the times, it is definitely the harder way, but most effective, the experiences that hurt you in some way are the best lessons. So, to those parents that want to protect their child from all harm, why would you want to prevent them from coming into their own and learning? I know this is a tough subject because everyone wants to protect the people they love. But when it comes to preventing heartbreak, aren't you just hurting them more?
Do we only feel a certain way about someone or something because we are programmed to feel it? Now, I know we aren't robots, but we do become conditioned by society and the people around us. So, if this is true, how are we supposed to know if what we are feeling is something we truly feel, or is it something we are conditioned to feel? As if there is an expectation, that if you don't feel this way you are a ________, the name that is placed upon you is ever-changing by what you aren't following along with, or "feeling". So, what are we supposed to do? If you take a step back and look at your relationships with people, are you positive that all the feelings you have towards them, are your own? Are we ever able to tell the differentiate own feelings from the ones society has placed upon us?
When we are confused to the point of not caring anymore, is it ok to let someone tell you how you should feel? To have someone lead you down a path that you thought you already mentally passed the entrance to. What if this person does this for a living, and has technically been helping the thoroughly confused, such as yourself, for years on end? Does that make them more apt to making a decision for you than your bewildered mind? When, or should we ever, give up the reins to someone else to help lead us in our own lives? Or is it better to just figure it out for yourself?
Take pride in how far you have come and have faith in how far you can go