Do we become what we try not to be perceived as? Think about it, is there anything that you have tried so hard not to be labeled as and are now doing exactly what you said you would never do? If this is the case it's quite embarrassing when you realize what has happened. Could this mean, what we push away and try not to be labeled as is really our true innate character?
Isn't weird to think that someone you dislike is someone else's favorite person? In saying this they can't be all that bad if they're able to light up someone else's day. Do you think we are sometimes too quick to judge and never truly give the person a chance? Maybe your morals just don't add up with theirs, but does that give you a right to treat them poorly? Rather than judging people based off how they do or don't fulfill us, why don't we just see them as who they are? A human being. No, they may not be your favorite, and no you might not want to hang out with them all day long. But you don't go around trying to make everyone like you, so why should they? Alternatively, why can't we just see that they are trying their best and you are trying yours?
When a women gets hit on her reaction is either "ew, he's creepy!" or "omg I'm so excited!"; is the difference between these polar opposite reactions due to how attractive she finds the guy? I know we, as women, don't like to say that looks matter and that we really only want a "nice guy", which is partially true but mainly bullshit. Looks do matter to a certain extent, you have to have SOME sort of physical attraction to the person. So, in saying this when a guy we aren't attracted to hits on us, is he automatically lumped into the "creepy" category just because we don't find him attractive? Personally, I don't think so, I find it endearing and sweet, but, that is only if the way in which he hit on me was in a nice or more playful way. A lot of guys, I feel, try to be bold/confident and just get over the fear of talking to us because we can be "scary". I can totally sympathize with this, as it is scary to talk to someone you're interested in, but a lot of the time when this happens, they either come off as cocky or sketchy. So, are we grouping looks and the delivery of being hit on into our reaction or is it only based on looks? Lets just say it is only looks, aren't we doing ourselves an injustice? For example, what if there is a guy who hit on you and he wasn't your "type", but he was very sweet in the delivery of his advance. Would you turn him down and say he is creepy, and then proceed to choose the attractive guy, who's really an asshole, only based on looks? I feel like this is done a lot whether we see it, or even, want to admit to it. As a final thought, if our reaction is just based on looks, do we only give attractive guys a hall pass, and if yes, should we be?
When trying to have a positive outlook on life usually you go to your own personal viewpoint. You might try to view the past situations or current one in a different light. But, do you think even if you don't view your situation as the best thing that ever happened, it certainly was not the worst either. Now this is just in general, I know there are many people going through very tough circumstances. But, do you think for what someone from the outside would perceive as sad, you have just perceived as normal. Because to you, it was! In that time and space this was your normal, so you don't have that sad cloud lingering over your memory. All in all do you think other people's perceptions on our situation make us look at what has happened to us in a worse way than what it actually was?
I know I definitely don't speak for the whole female population, but I know I can say for at least some of us; starting off a sentence with "money isn't an issue for me" isn't the way to pull at my heart strings. Yes, it is great to be able to provide for yourself and live comfortably, but at least be humble about it. I am more interested in what money can't buy. I would much rather someone who can provide me with millions of belly aching laughs, romantic rendez- vous and who will push my boundaries over "the money guy" any day. You have to provide more than money and good looks to get my attention. Spoil me with your time.
Do we stay stuck on something/someone because we are afraid we would be nothing without it/them? That the drama of being stuck would disappear if we let go of holding onto something not worth our time, and then you have the "now what" feeling. And as sad as this sounds, we would almost be nothing without these hang ups in our lives. We just swing from one obsession to the next. So, is that why we can't seem to release and let go of something that was meant to be forgotten long ago? I can't be the only one with friends and family telling me to "just forget about him" or "let it go, stop focusing on it". It's a lot easier said then done. Especially, when we have nothing to obsess about when we let go of our present restraint.
When starting a new relationship if the other person isn't curious about you, are they even worth pursuing? I know this sounds harsh, but isn't that what a relationship is about? You're curious about them and they are curious about you. You can't wait to learn any and everything about them and vice versa. So, if its not there from the beginning is that a sign you should just stop it before whatever would begin, begins? After all the beginning stages of any relationship are often the best, so that's your spring board for the rest of the relationship. But, what if they are just shy or really busy? Or are those just two ways of politely saying they aren't interested therefore aren't curious. When is it too soon to give up on what could be when curiosity is lacking?
When we think about someone or a situation and visualize what we want the outcome to be are we really just confusing ourselves? I know positively visualizing is a great tactic to bring more positive things into our lives, but what about ones we aren't sure about? How are we to know the difference between what our gut/brain is telling us versus the exciting feelings we have from visualizing? Are we then just creating an expectation of something or someone that was never meant to come to fruition?
Take pride in how far you have come and have faith in how far you can go