When it comes to pursuing anything in life does an end goal really help us? Mostly always in the job world it seems to be beneficial to have a goal you're striving for.Creating something to look forward to and doing any and everything within your power to achieve it. But what about when we aren't talking about jobs and our dreams? Does this idea still pertain? When it comes to relationships, friendship or romantic, can this still apply? Or can end goals only cause trouble? Only being in a relationship or doing something for the end goal. It can then turn into you only being happy due to the idea of this goal and not the relationship. You are no longer in a relationship with a human you are there purely for the fantasy of a dream of what it could turn into. This happens many a times with marriage, people get so caught up in the idea of it, or wanting it, that as soon as they find someone nice/ somebody at all, they then decide that this person is the one. Or the complete opposite, they aren't really sure they see the relationship going anywhere but then this person proposes it it lights a spark inside of them. A hope that maybe things can work out and they do in fact have chemistry. This all being brought about due to the idea/ intrigue marriage provides. Wanting that white-picket-fence life and doing anything to create it. The end goal causing us to do something we normally wouldn't. So does this fall into the category most do when it comes to relationships? In most instances, is it hard to put a label or pin point what is and isn't right in any one relationship? But are end goals ever really a good thing when another person is involved?
When it comes to relationships have you ever felt like love just wasn't enough? Let me re-phrase that, have you ever felt just saying "I love you" wasn't enough? We have all had those times where we have said "I love you" to someone but we didn't feel it, we were purely saying it to appease the other person. Not in a mean way, we were just trying to be kind but simply didn't feel it back. (Which for your and the other persons case I hope you still aren't in that relationship). But, what if things flipped? Rather than having no feeling when saying I love you, you have too much feeling? So much so that saying it doesn't feel like enough. It doesn't suffice. There are so many feelings to cover it's impossible to do so with just three little words. So what do we do? Tell the person how much they mean to us and all the things we love about them? If that is the case we would never shut up. The idea that we can never fully express how we truly feel with three words, which are supposed to be the end-all-be-all, has to be a good thing right? Does this then mean if you don't feel that way you're in the wrong relationship?
That feeling. When you sit for a minute and it sinks in that you are so incredibly lucky. Gratitude fills your every cell. Shivers trickle down your back. Goose bumps cover your limbs. You can't help but find a smile upon your face. Shaking your head as you bite your lip. You have what you have always dreamed of. It is happening. Close your eyes. That feeling. That feeling is what we all live for.
Take pride in how far you have come and have faith in how far you can go